Firstly: criticisms must be critical. That is, they must express some level of analysis of the work in question. It is insufficient to say that a work is bad. That is just a disapproval, not a criticism. You must say why you think it is bad, or point out what could be changed about it that would make it less bad.
Good criticisms can make people feel bad, but they add something more important to the picture: information that can prevent that from happening again. A criticism that doesn't do that is just noise. It doesn't help the other person create a better work. It simply pollutes the air with emotional baggage and makes it harder to get to more relevant data. Data that you can use to help you become better.
It takes every effort of will to learn to distinguish disapproval from criticism, both in its reception and in its delivery.
Take that effort. Learn it, practice it, and master it. The very least it will do for you is that the active analysis of verbal "attacks" for usable content takes so much of your attention that you have no time to actually feel the sting of insults, the most of which are really just pointless, noisy breaths that are gone in an instant. And when you get better at it, it almost gets funny.
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